That’s a mighty powerful word and not to be taken lightly. I have issue with trust because of past hurts. I wish I could have a blank screen for everyone I meet. It doesn’t work that way. Everything in carried over into the next friendship, relationship. As hard as we try to put the past in the past and leave it something creeps in.
They’re called triggers. They are a part of us and our daily lives. We can choose to let them get in the way of our happiness or we can try and recreate and fix what went wrong in another relationship. Nothing ever really gets fixed. It’s shoved under a rug, transfered blame, total denial, new term(ghosting), (catfishing), a willingness to accept our part and move forward. Some people will alway blame and shame another person if we allow it.
Making friends is difficult because of this reason-trust. I know that I don’t want to be hurt again but I believe it is inevitable in life and not always done on purpose.
Trust- the act of placing confidence in someone or something other thatn yourself- is social superglue. It is the binding for the deepest love, the strongest friendships, and the world’s communities. Modern society is built on trust, and in the absense of trust, fear rules.
With this in mind, it is easy to understand how people with trust issues might have difficulty engaging in certain social settings and leading the most fulfilling life they can. Some of the most common settings in which individuals display a lach of trust are in interpersonal relationships (romantic or otherwise), business dealings, politics, and even the use of technology. And witlh these different facets of life becoming increasingly interconnected, mistrust could conceivably spread from one part of a person’s life to another.
Where Do Trust Issues Come From?
Trust can take years to develop, but it can be destroyed in an instant. People who have issues with trust have often had significant negative experiences in the past with individuals or organizations they initially deemed trustworthy. For example, studies show that children of divorced parents and those from abusive households are more likely to have intimacy, commitment, and trust issues in future relationships.
While trust issues sometimes develop from negative interactions experienced during early childhood, social rejection during adolescence or traumatic experiences during adulthood can also lead to trust issues for an individual. Betrayal in the form of infidelity in romantic relationships can cause trust issues throughout a person’s life. Significant loss of financial resources or perceived injustice at the hands of authority figures can even cause strong feelings of mistrust toward institutions rather than people. The fragile state of the nation’s economy, for example, has resulted in many people losing trust in the banking system and government organizations.
In short, when a person’s trust is repeatedly violated, his or her belief system can be affected profoundly, causing future concerns with placing trust in people or organizations.