The symptoms of borderline personality disorder include: a recurring pattern of instability in relationships, efforts to avoid abandonment, identity disturbance, impulsivity, emotional instability, and chronic feelings of emptiness, among other symptoms.

Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a significant pattern of instability in personal relationships, self-image, and emotions. People with borderline personality disorder can be very impulsive and may demonstrate self-injurious behaviors such as risky sexual behaviors, cutting, or suicide attempts.

I know a few people like this. I used to think I had it until I became educated in similar mental disorders. I have Bipolar 1 and some of the symptoms mimic each other. It is a little disturbing to experience to see a loved one go through a phase or fit of rage and all you can do is stand back and let it happen.

I was recently caught int the cross fire of couple I know. The rage seemed to come out of nowhere. And the best thing I could do at the time was to walk away and address it later. When someone is in the middle of a meltdown it’s best to step back and try to be supportive. I decided to take an online test to see if I have it and it came back “probably” which doesnt’ really bother me because I am already seeking treatment for my Bipolar disorder.

Borderline personality disorder occurs in most people by early adulthood (early 20s). A person with this condition will have experienced an unstable pattern of interacting with others for years. This behavior is usually closely related to the person’s self-image and early social interactions with friends and family. The behavior pattern is present in a variety of settings not just at work or home and often is accompanied by a similar a fluctuating back and forth, sometimes in a quick of a person’s emotions and feelings.
People with borderline personality disorder are usually more sensitive than most people to environmental circumstances. The perception of impending separation or rejection, or the loss of external structure, can lead to profound changes in self-image, affect, cognition, and behavior.

They experience intense abandonment fears and inappropriate anger, even when faced with a realistic time-limited separation or when there are unavoidable changes in plans. For instance, a person with this condition may experience sudden despair in reaction to a clinician’s announcing the end of the hour; or panic and fury when someone important to them is just a few minutes late or must cancel an appointment.

They may believe that this “abandonment” implies that they are a “bad person.” These abandonment fears are related to an intolerance of being alone and a need to have other people with them. Relationships and the person’s emotions may sometimes be seen by others or characterized as being shallow.

A personality disorder is a lasting pattern of inner experience and behavior that deviates from the norm of the individual’s culture. In order for a personality disorder to be diagnosed, the behavior pattern must be seen in two or more of the following areas: cognition (thinking); affect (feeling); interpersonal functioning; or impulse control.
In personality disorders, this pattern of behavior is inflexible and pervasive across a broad range of personal and social situations. It typically leads to significant distress or impairment in social, work or other areas of functioning. The pattern is stable and of long duration, and its onset can be traced back to early adulthood or adolescence.
Symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder

A person with this disorder will also often exhibit impulsive behaviors and have a majority of the following symptoms:

  • Transient, stress-related paranoid thoughts or severe dissociative symptoms
  • Chronic feelings of emptiness
  • Impulsivity in at least two areas that are potentially self-damaging such as
  • excessive spending, sex, substance abuse, reckless driving, binge eating
  • Frantic efforts to avoid abandonment, whether the abandonment is real or imagined
  • Recurrent suicidal behavior, gestures, or threats, or self-mutilating behavior
  • A pattern of unstable and intense interpersonal relationships characterized by alternating between extremes of idealization and devaluation
  • Inappropriate, intense anger or difficulty controlling anger and frequent displays of temper, constant anger, recurrent physical fights
  • Identity disturbance, such as a significant and persistent unstable self-image or sense of self
  • Emotional instability due to significant reactivity of mood that is intense episodic dysphoria, irritability, or anxiety usually lasting a few hours and only rarely more than a few days

Because personality disorders describe long-standing and enduring patterns of behavior, they are most often diagnosed in adulthood. It is uncommon for them to be diagnosed in childhood or adolescence, because a child or teen is under constant development, personality changes, and maturation. However, if it is diagnosed in a child or teen, the features must have been present for at least 1 year.
Borderline personality disorder is more prevalent in females (75 percent of diagnoses made are in females). It is thought that this disorder affects between 1.6 and 5.9 percent of the general population.
Like most personality disorders, BPD typically will decrease in intensity with age, with many people experiencing few of the most extreme symptoms by the time they are in the 40s or 50s.

Unless you have a mental illness you can’t possibly know how that person feels. It is wild at times and frightening other times. Using the tools given (the links below) you may find it beneficial to you or a loved one and a great possibility for getting the help needed to live a long and loving life.

Getting help for BPD